Today’s post is lovingly brought you by my sister-in-law, Amanda, who so graciously agreed to talk about this difficult subject. Here’s what she has to say:
See that face? Isn’t that a beautiful face? That is my daughter, Kat, a talkative, spirited, stubborn, bubbly, brilliant, and exuberant little girl who is growing far, far too fast. She turns ten in January and I honestly have difficulty remembering what life was like before she was born. The next thing I know, she’ll be heading off to college, then getting married. While there are days that I want to tear my hair out, most of the time I honestly wish time would just slow down so I could enjoy her at every stage just a little longer.
That’s not how God has created this world, and I have to be mindful that she is indeed growing up. Something that’s been on my mind as of late in particular has been the big P word – that’s right, puberty.
While ten is rather young, it’s also not impossible for a girl her age to start puberty. My mother hit it around ten, I hit it around eleven. With girls, another word that comes along with puberty is the M word – menstruation.
Recently, my mother in law impressed upon me the need to have ‘the talk’ with my daughter. It’s not a subject that I’m particularly comfortable with, partly because it’s been considered sort of ‘taboo’ in our culture, and partly because it’s yet another reminder that my daughter is growing up. The funny thing is, it had already been a subject on my mind in recent weeks, especially knowing how young I was when I entered that stage. I’ll admit, I’m far from an expert on the subject, but this is how I plan to broach it with my daughter.
One of the things that continues to amaze me about God (you’d think I’d be used to this by now) is his impeccable timing. Just as the time has come to talk to my daughter about these sorts of subjects, the homeschool curriculum that I follow just so happens to focus on the human body this year. Coincidence? No, I don’t think so. So as we go through our schooling, I will be using a couple of resources to help me teach anatomy. First, I will utilized Apologia’s “Exploring Creation” series. This book doesn’t go into too much detail about this subject, but it will allow me to start teaching her about her body and its various functions.
I’m not going to solely rely on our school curriculum though, and there will certainly be subjects I’m going to discuss with her one on one rather than when her younger brother is with her as well. One of the things I want to do is read through the book “From Girl . . . To Woman (God’s Plan for Growing Up, Book 1)”
by Sandi Queen. I’ve been told it’s a great way to ‘ease into’ this sort of topic.
And while I put this resource last, I do so because I feel like the most important thing should be mentioned last simply because that’s often what I remember the most. The Bible. God made this world and He made women the way He did for a reason. I don’t want my daughter to ever think that anything, even something like her body, is some how separate from or not important to God. Scripture will be used throughout any discussions we may have. If I had to choose only one of these resources to use, it would be this one. The Bible tells us that we were made in God’s image – not just male, but male and female. While a woman was deceived by the serpent, it was also a woman who bore God’s son, Jesus Christ, so that he could live a perfect life and die as a perfect sacrifice for our sins.
So that’s what I plan to do. As I said, I’m not an expert and I haven’t even started ‘that talk’ with her yet, but I hope that we can discuss it in a way that won’t embarrass her, but will also glorify God – and that last part is the most important thing.
How did/would you talk to your daughter about puberty?