To My Future Adopted Daughters
This month is National Adoption Month. Adoption is very dear to my heart. I wasn’t adopted, but my sister was, and I simply cannot imagine my life without her. I don’t even want to. And ever since I learned that she was adopted (it wasn’t until I was 7 or 8), I knew that I wanted to do the same thing with my family. But I wanted to adopt twin girls. Girls, because as one, I knew that we would be able to relate simply because of physiology. And twins because, a) I don’t think I’ll get some naturally and I think it would be fun to have twins, and b) so that they can always have someone who knows what they are going through because they are going through it together.
I don’t know if God will grant me this desire of my heart, but I am going to pray and try to move in that direction in the hopes and belief that He will.
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This is my letter to them.
Dear future daughters,
Ever since I learned that my sister, your aunt, came into our family through adoption, I knew that I wanted to grow my family in the same way. It has been on my heart ever since I was a little girl.
Even though I won’t be able to hold you in my womb for nine months or feel you kick and twist in my insides like your brothers, I know that we will have a special bond because I have prayed for you and I have chosen you as my own.
I don’t know what you will look like, if you’ll “match” our family in the conventional, visual sense, but I know without a doubt that you will belong to our family. I will be your mother and you will be my daughters, no matter what anyone else might think or say.
I wish I could say that I will make sure no harm ever comes to you, but I don’t know when we will meet and I can’t control other people’s behavior, but I want you to know that I am going to try my hardest to ensure that you feel safe and secure and loved as long as we are together.
My children are one of the most precious things I have, and you are included in that. And as such a treasure, I hope that I can give you the most important thing: knowledge of a Father who will never forsake you or leave you, a Father who created adoption in the first place. I hope that I can model His love to you when you are younger and explain more fully to as you grow.
I also want to tell you that I know that finding out about your birth family will be important to you. I won’t be offended if you want to pursue a relationship with them. But I also want you to know that I am your mom. And I am going to love you with the fierceness that goes with that title.
I will be praying for you. And I look forward to the day when I can call you my daughters.